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感覺變淡既原因?

我同個女仔拍拖拍左一個月,最初既感覺好強烈,特別係同佢msn同講電話既時候,一收左線之後每分每秒都掛住佢,會有衝動想立刻見面。

但係真係到左約會果陣,又好似無乜特別咁,只係間唔中覺得甜蜜、浪漫,無果種難捨難離既感覺。甚至有時覺得唔太自然,想早少少返屋企。

不過返到屋企,又忽然變到好掛住佢,好渴望見面,每次約會都係咁,到底點解會咁?

前兩日因為佢太忙,所以我地無出去,就因為咁令我覺得好需要佢o係我身邊,好怕失去佢,加埋胡思亂想,個心有一陣陣既痛。但係到左尋日約會,好似又重歸平淡。直至返到屋企,今次完全無想念佢既感覺。今日佢要去北京,我只係稍微有少少不捨。究竟係咩問題?

奇怪既係過左一星期既時間,我又突然好掛住佢,好驚無左佢。

短短一個月我地擁抱過,接吻過,會唔會係我地發展得太快,無細水長流既基礎,先會變成咁?

我得好少拍拖經驗,所以唔知道咁係咩原因,點解我既變化會咁大?我同佢仲可唔可以繼續落去?

希望有相同感覺或者經驗既人可以幫手解答。多謝咁多位

更新:

因為最佳解答感想字數有限,所以放落呢到

給alien3333:

其實條問題我已經問左好多次,得到過好多好多既回應,但係佢地俾我感覺都係scan完我打既野,下意識用平時學過、諗過既道理強行安放上去。雖然好感激佢地既幫忙,不過始終無人可以真正答到我......

你係咁耐以黎唯一一個令我覺得你有細心睇過條問題既人,並且憑藉自己既經驗,貼心咁為我做左好多解答同建議。每一句都睇得出你花過心思,令我好感動......

更新 2:

你講得啱,我唔應該否認真係好在乎佢,然後搵藉口叫自己停止。儘管佢同我既背景好唔同,側邊既人覺得我高攀緊佢,甚至有成千上萬既追求者想搶走佢,我都會繼續努力,唔會輕言放棄!盡左力,即使失敗左,起碼我呢輩子都唔會覺得後悔、遺憾。

睇完你既答案令我感覺好舒服,亦都學識左好多野

真係非常非常多謝你,我終於知道應該點做!

最後,你既解答時間係凌晨兩點,太夜訓對健康影響好大,記得要小心照顧自己既身體呀~

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  • 1 十年前
    最愛解答

    Well, take it easy man. Nothing special. Everything relationship starts like this. She must be an attractive lady. I see you are a nice man too. Kissing is normal and nothing fast. Great job. You want to occupy her and feeling that you may lost her, that is also normal too, as a man, it is a dominating nature.

    Now, all you need to do is get some other work to do, like exercise, or focus more on study or work. But at the same time, let her go to beijing with more BREATHING ROOM, but make sure to call her daily in person. Ask her how she is doing, one time a day before she sleep is enough. Regular CARING actions are needed. If she ask ... "Do you miss me", answer very fast say ..."I miss you very much o... wish that you are by my side." ... make her feel important and you need her....

    When she come back, pick her up from airport ... give her a gentle kiss.

    and say ... "I am a good man and have been waiting for you a long time."

    and give her a good longer hug ... whisper in her ear... in public !!! very important...

    and when the time is right ... she will treat you better if she is a fair person ... and if she is ready to escalate the relationship, she will also do it ...

    take it slow and let the lady drive ... and you as the gentleman side ... do what you can to make her feel great ... and once she feel good, the defense will be less, and she will give you more in return ...

    that is the art of relationship.

    YOU CARE ABOUT HER, stop denying it ... it is just that she is still TOO COLD to you and your man pride/ego make you feel that ADDING MORE LOVE TO THE RELATIONSHIP is not a good deal ... and you want to back off ...

    Anyway, if you follow my advice ... you should be fine.

    Dont waste a good lady if she is worth it.

    all the best.

  • 1 十年前

    如果戀愛中充滿了工作而沒有玩耍,將會十分無聊,當大家在一起玩的時候,就是在一起彼此相處的時候,是很有價值的。今天真正困擾我們的是一個觀念:“玩” 通常是你所有的工作都做完之後才作的事。但問題是:我們的工作永遠作不完,甚至當我們年紀到了,退休了的時候,我們仍然會有事情作,這樣的結果是,愛情裡面的樂趣就被丟到窗外去了!

  • 1 十年前

    友情 / 愛情 都係一種感覺, 感覺需要互動, 需要互相去配合對方,你覺得自己愛對方,如果你想要改變佢,變成一個你心目中喜歡既人,你應該考慮搵一個更加適合你既對象。愛一個人唔一定需要擁有對方,男女之間唔一定只有愛情。愛情好多時會不知不覺中轉變為感情同友情,你會逐漸將對方視作你生命中既一部分,有D人因為唔可以離對方而選擇結婚,有D人選擇追逐激情而去愛另一個人。但更重要既係,你要問自己愛過之後你學倒D乜嘢。

    有D人因為唔可以再離對方而選擇結婚,有D人會選擇追逐愛情。但更重要既係,你要問自己你學左D乜嘢。希望下次唔好再犯同樣既錯?! 愛情需要講緣份,緣來緣去,緣起緣滅。點解兩個人偏偏會相遇相愛? 你要記住,緣份好可能就係你哋彼此之間既每一個既選擇,你地每一句既說話,每一個既諗法, 每一個既決定都可能影響彼此之間既緣份。如果當你已經盡左最大既努力,愛情依然發現無法延續,咁就可能係時間(timing)上出現左問題。如果當愛情唔能夠同時出現响大家身上,就好多時會變成有緣無份!?

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